A Couple That Grows Together Stays Together
Perhaps you are in a new relationship or you are in a relationship that spans several years. Whatever length of time you have been devoted to your significant other, there are going to be times where you feel that life gets in the way and pulls you apart. There are a lot of couples out there that are more devoted to their job than their loved one and this shift can be a recipe for disaster. I have talked to people who have stayed in a married relationship for 10 years, 30, years and 50 years. The secret to staying happily married: growing as individuals together. We all know the basic dynamics of a good relationship: communication, honesty, loyalty, understanding, patience, compassion, and so forth. What really stood out for me in these relationships was the same thing: these couples led individual lives and never treated their significant other as a “possession”. However, they also spent a great deal of time doing things together. Whether it was something as simple as cooking dinner together or going for a walk or taking a vacation together or learning a new skill, these couples were able to strengthen their bond though common experiences. You and your significant other both wear many hats in the relationship but you should be each other’s best friend above anything else. Make the effort to experience new things together and the relationship will never get boring. That is why it is important to have common interests. So for all of you on-line daters out there, make an effort to read someone’s profile rather than just check on their physical attributes! When you go on a date, make an effort to get to know the person. Don’t ask about what they do for a living, ask about what makes them feel like they are living. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
