The Battlefield of Love
Some of us wear our hearts on our sleeves and some of us build walls that are impossible to break down. The way we approach a new relationship is all dependant on the outcome of our past relationships and whether or not, we have truly moved on from them with new insight. I see many women – and men, who carry themselves with battered armour and they enter new relationships, ready to battle all in the quest of searching for love. Don’t be jaded by finding “true love”. Most of the time people are infatuated and not really in love with the other person. When times get tough, they wonder why their fairytale romance has been shredded by reality.
Humans are creatures of habit. If you are finding yourself in relationships that constantly fail or you are unhappy in, it’s time to do a little self-evaluation. What type of people are you attracting into your life? Often times this person reflects our own weaknesses and we place so much expectation of happiness upon them we are baffled when they disappoint us. We feel that we lose control of ourselves, we feel cheated somehow, and we feel insecure. Guess what? Your partner starts to see those very things in you and that’s when things can start to get rocky. If you catch yourself with these destructive tendencies and you realize they are of your own doing, you can still salvage the relationship. However, if you feel that your partner is truly not the one for you, stop grasping into thin air. Let go and stop fighting for something that maybe never really was to begin with.
Single life is truly a time of self discovery. It can be one of the toughest times in your life or it can truly work in your benefit. Sure, it can be lonely a lot of the time but usually, that is by choice. As with any loss, give yourself some time to get over the break up but don’t spend years dwelling over it! You only have this one life to create whatever life it is you want for yourself. Shed the armour and step into the next phase of life, light and free of whatever it was that was dragging you down. When you carry yourself with an optimistic outlook on life, you exude a kind of confidence that is all your own. There is nothing sexier than a person who is their own source of happiness rather than placing it into someone else’s hands.
