On-Line Dating: How to Pick Up Women
I hear many people complain about the people they meet through on-line dating. That is probably because you are connecting with the wrong types of people. I think this particularly applies to men who feel it is quite the challenge to spark some interest in women among the competition.
Let’s look at a typical dating website. As you scroll through the profiles, a gorgeous woman who catches your eye. What do you do? I can tell you what about 99% of guys will do; they will send them one of these typical messages:
“Hey! How’s it going! You look really exciting and I was just seeing if you would like to talk sometime!”
Or
“Wow, you’re beautiful. I bet you get tons of messages from all the guys but with any luck this e-mail will get through to you because I would really like to take you out sometime!”
Or
“I’m the friendliest guy you will ever meet if you give me the chance! Message me back!”
Believe it or not but the success rate of some of these common approaches are lower than 1%. That is, only if you have a really interesting profile to begin with. So how do you get a woman interested? You need to perfect your profile before you start doing anything else. Sounds like work but it’s not. You have to cater your profile to what appeals to a woman. Unlike men, women DO read your profile. They want to see what you’re about, what your passions are and what you are looking for as well. You want to get the right pictures and the right information in your profile.
Another tip: an attractive girl will not message you back if you do not have a picture and only post the most standard responses in your profile sections. Don’t get discouraged here guys. Women like photos because 1. They want to see if they find you attractive and 2. They want a face to the name that has messaged them. A woman will always delete a message that does not contain a photo. She will wonder what the guy is hiding.
Quick Profile Tips:
What kind of pictures do you need to have listed in your profile? Typically speaking, you need display pictures that express worth. I am not talking about your material worth here either. You may want to ease up on the party photos; beer in one hand, and a woman in the other. If you have a great physique, kudos to you but there is also no need to do a photo spread of your six-pack abs. Women like photos of you in your natural element- be it the sports you are into, places you have traveled, hobbies you enjoy and even the pet you adore; as long as you don’t make it look like a profile about your dog Sparky and not you!
The second thing you need to do is READ HER PROFILE. Too many guys fall short to personalize their first message, which is critical, since an attractive girl may get as many as fifty messages a day. You need something that catches her interest and the easiest way to do this is to personalize your message. Don’t just tell her how beautiful she is. This only indicates one thing-you want to get into her pants. Many women that resort to on-line dating because they have had their share of heartbreak or have dated schmucks in the past. Guaranteed, she is not looking to experience that all over again. Some women pour their hearts out in their profile-be weary of this too! If she sounds like she has a huge chip on her shoulder, she probably isn’t ready to date. Try to find some common ground through her profile and mention it in your initial message to her. She will already be impressed that you took the time to read it.
Finally, the thing most guys need to avoid is writing way too much. Keep your message brief. Again, you want to appear like a non-creepy and non-needy guy. Women do not want to read a novel from you, especially since you hardly know her and already you’re willing to devote so much time for her. Women are allured to a man of mystery. Say enough to get her attention but save enough so that she will want to hear more and yes, that results in getting her to meet with you.
Generally speaking, women are hard-wired the same way but the trick to remember is: no two women are alike. What worked with one woman, may not work with another. That is why it is important to take the time to make a women feel special and unique when pursuing her. Be confident but not cocky. Be charming but have an edge. Be yourself but leave some mystery. Be sincere but have some fun. This will keep her coming back for more.
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