2011 Food and Wine Expo

… Come join us for an amazing night of music, dance and drinks to support the Dorothy Ley Hospice.

Besides the Live Entertainment by Start the Car and Belgian DJ Monobau, there will be a silent auction (you can bid on one of my paintings) and raffles. Guitars have been donated and signed by all members of the The Tragically Hip, Sam Roberts, Great Big Sea, Blue Rodeo, Cowbow Junkies as well as many other amazing silent auction & raffle items.

Tickets: $20.00 in advance. – All purchased tickets will be provided with a tax receipt.

Come out and support a great cause. We look forward to meeting you there!!!

http://www.dlhospice.org/en/

Join Z103.5′s Ashley Greco, DJ Danny D and I at at On the Curve Lounge located at 55 City Centre Drive, Mississauga.

Make sure to visit me in the media lounge-the cameras will be rolling and we want to hear what you have to say when it comes to dating and relationships!

Hope to see you there!!!!

We compare ourselves to this paradox by seeking out who is smarter, who is richer, who is more attractive, who is more popular, who is more athletic, who is better established, who is more powerful, who is happier, etc.

Once we are able to hone on any of these aspects that may upgrade our standing, we feel our ego being validated. The more we attain, the more medals we proudly display.

The problem arises when an exaggerated feeling of being superior to others is engrained into our psyche. Oddly enough, oftentimes, the people that show-off only do so because they feel inferior to compete with others on the useful side of life. These people are not in harmony with society.

There are many subtle forms of ego that can be observed in people and, more importantly, in our self. When we are able to catch ourselves acting or feeling superior, we become awoken to this characteristic in our personality.

If we are not aware of it, we continue to feed it and allow it to grow. Our interactions with others may lead us to seek any imbalance in our favor between us and the other person. We enjoy that we know more or are better than another.

This is precisely why so many people are addicted to gossiping since it often carries an element of malicious criticism and judgment of others. Fueling these thoughts strengthens the ego through the implied but imagined superiority based on negative judgments

If we know that someone has more, knows more, or can do more than us, we tend to feel threatened because the feeling of “less” affects our sense of personal value and we often react to this by trying to restore our value by diminishing or criticizing the value of the other person’s possessions, knowledge, or abilities.

Or we may decide to shift the focus by competing with the other person or even associating with them, especially if they are seen as important in the eyes of others.

We are the result of whatever factors impacted, shaped and influenced us through our individual experiences and nothing more. We all carry a unique code of events that is ours alone and no one else can duplicate that.

While perhaps externally, we feel that we can be like someone else or better than they are, this is only shaped by a false understanding of ourself.

We fuel a machine of information and thoughts from our individual point of view but how original are we in this collage of collective thought?

The majority of people strive to be unique and stand apart from the crowd yet very few actually do. The reason being most people are followers and not leaders and it is leaders that stand apart from the masses.

Fashion is one of the most notorious of collective thought. Fashion designers create “original” (aka recycled) couture and the masses, replicate it. We agree to dress in uniform through fashion and that is not original because we don’t “own” it, we “borrow” it.

This very concept duplicates itself through the entertainment industry and popular culture. We not only look the same, we talk the same and behave the same way. Yet, do we really think the same? Our mind and our thoughts are the only things we “own” unless we have succumbed to others in deciding that for us too and that is a frightening thought!

While getting to know my peers during the first week of school, we did the customary personal introductions in each class. Most of my fellow students responded with the typical protocol of where: they grew up, what they studied, what career they were aspiring to and so forth. For the sake of variety, when it was my turn I responded with “I ride a unicycle blindfolded to school.” The mixture of response I received was interesting. I was of course, joking. Most of the students thought I was serious but going forward, everyone remembered my name because of that odd and silly remark.

Originality renders a consensual response of surprise and piques further interest in the subject matter. It makes an impact from our conditioned line of thinking. While originality may require a creative imagination, above all, it is the result of one concept: being ourselves.

Join Suresh and myself on Saturday, October 8th at 8pm as I will be joining
him in part of his venture during a LIVE, one hour long show on Rogers TV.
You won’t want to miss it!!!

The attempt to be the LONGEST TV TALK SHOW will be taking place on
October 7th at 11:00pm to Monday, October 10th at 2:00pm. This means his
62 hours of continuous interviewing on his talk show will break the old
record of 50 hours and 9 mins!

We will talk about relationships, dating, the single life, what is sexy,  first date deal-breakers, one night stands and get the male and female perspective on the topics that are on everyone’s minds!

http://www.rogerstv.com/page.aspx?lid=12&rid=51&sid=4404&dat=9/6/2011

hosted by: Owen Williams and Chris St. John

A man can show up in relationship in two ways – as a donkey (being an ass) or as a Stallion. Learn how to bring out the Stallion in your man.

An intimate and provocative evening for women by two men who will inspire you to connect with your man and support you to get what you really want from your relationship.

Ryerson University,
International Learning Centre
Tuesday, August 23rd, 2011
7.00pm – 9.30pm
$100.00 (taxes included)

http://www.relationshipexcellence.com/stallion/

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I have made my share of sarcastic remarks in my lifetime. I have learned that people generally respond to it in two ways: the first being, they know I am gently poking fun at them and they respond in the same manner towards me. The other type takes me literally and feels confused and/or gets offended.

Some people see and use sarcasm as means of humour but how come some use it and others don’t?

I looked into the roots of where sarcasm evolves and it is psychological. I learned that sarcasm is the means of indirectly expressing aggression toward others and insecurity about themselves. Sarcastic folk package their thoughts into a joke to shield them from the vulnerability that comes with directly putting one’s opinions out there.

A 2007 study at the University of Western Ontario, determined this one-upsmanship from a biological perspective, showing that people whose brains are best equipped to understand sarcasm also tend to have aggressive personalities. Subjects who scored high on aggression tests showed different patterns of brain activity in response to sarcasm than those who did not. The differences suggest that the aggressive subjects were processing non-literal meaning more quickly. Sarcasm is definitely a dominance thing. On the flip side, people who are particularly good at detecting sarcasm also tend to be better at identifying emotional facial expressions. They seem to understand social situations better overall.

You may be sharp but are you cutting too deep?  It’s important to know your audience. People have a wide a range of tolerance for sarcasm. If the person knows your words are meant as a joke, the reaction may be more positive but say the same thing to someone you just met and they may take it entirely out of context. Even more simple than that is to think before you speak! Some people resort to frequent usage of sarcasm to boost their own ego. It’s best to figure out what your motivations are for hiding behind a veil of sarcasm.

I know sarcasm is deeply rooted into who I am because it was a large part of my social upbringing. However, it is something I pay attention to. If you’re unsure how the context of your statement will be interpreted, it’s best not to use sarcasm at all, as I have learned. It’s not exactly superior social intelligence at play when it comes to sarcasm but I do find that we tend to be the most interesting conversationalists at a party!

Dorothy takes a trip to Tryst Lingerie to talk about finding the perfect fitting bra. Guys, if you’re looking for lingerie that’s quick and easy you’ll want to check out a few of these pointers so you’ll find the best choice in the least amount of time!