A first date can be fantastic or dreadful. When the date has come to an end, your follow-up should be based on how the date went. The feedback or “post mortem” is crucial though because it indicates your interest in the other person or lack of. Either way, it’s only courteous to let them know so neither of you waste your time.
If you and your date hit it off and you feel some kind of connection and chemistry, you are more than likely going to want a second date with them.

Do
- Text, email or even be bold and call your date to tell them that you a had a good time
- Tell them what you enjoyed and what you liked about your date
- Indicate that you would like to see them again but leave the proposal open instead of scheduling a concrete time
- Update one another closer to your next date, keep it light. A little mystery can be sexy.
Don’t
- Don’t call them right away. Wait a couple of days. This will drive your date crazy if they like you. They will end up calling you which is a telltale sign that they’re into you. Works every time!
- There is no need to call one another every single day at the start of a new dating relationship as this can make the other person feel smothered and you appear rather clingy
- If plans do change, try not to cancel on your date last minute. Aim for some advance notice

On to the reverse side. Let’s say the date wasn’t what you were hoping for or you simply didn’t feel any chemistry with them. It’s tempting to want to run the other way and never have to see or speak to them again but what if they are interested in you? The same theory applies with the not calling right away. That being said, don’t continue to ignore the person. Respond with the classic “I’ve been busy”, this is the universal translation for “I’m just not that into you”. You can also be blunt but choose your words tactfully. In the dating world, there really are no rules but one: always be respectful and considerate to another person’s feelings.